I believe in feminism and I identify as a feminist, but sometimes when confronted with some of feminism's ideals, especially when it comes to relationships with men, all I can think is “blah, blah, blah.” Some schools of feminism condescendingly pat those that favor “traditional” values on the head (“there there, yes, your ideals are valid!”) and then snigger behind their backs because clearly, no self-possessed woman with her wits about her could possibly ever need anything from a man! No! We are independent ladies now! Rubbish. Sometimes, relationships and the things we need and want from each other aren’t as subversive as some schools of feminism would have us believe. Not everything is designed to beef up the patriarchy and undermine equality. I, for one, definitely want the man I’m with to possess certain qualities that make some people go “But you’re a feminist!” Yep, I’m a feminist, and sometimes–For A Change!–I’d like to be taken care of by a man. Aside from the regular